The place is hot and steamy, pulsing with the beat of blaring music and gyrating bodies. You see her working it across the crowded floor, and you have to meet her. A brilliant idea: youll buy her a drink. But wait a second – that only works in night clubs, and youre at a health club. So while you could send a 20 oz. Tropical Xtremo Gatorade her way, that probably wont produce the intended result, no matter how important it is to replenish fluids during strenuous exercise. What do you do?
Gyms notoriously attract eye-catching people. Theres no greater concentration of sinewy muscles and tight, skimpy clothing anywhere except maybe the adult thriller section of your local Blockbuster Video. Lets face it, even the most average-looking gym-goer is fit and healthy, or at least will be in a few months. But while fitness clubs are a veritable bakery of available beefcakes and beefcakettes, they can actually be rather tricky places to meet people. Gyms are often chock full of cheesy pick-up artists with sleazy come-ons, or, on the other side, designer gear-wearing posers who walk around a whole lot and manage to lift very little.
But there has to be some way for normal people to meet other normal people at the gym, right? The simple answer is yes, but not without keeping several things in mind – especially if your idea of a good opening line is something like Nice shoes, wanna french?
Listen up, all you muscle-bound Casanovas out there: no matter how eager you are to begin the mating er, dating process, youve got to scope out the scene. Some gyms are as flirty as all-you-can drink body shot nite at Club Med. Others, well, youd probably have better luck cruising a Buddhist monastery. Look around. Are people talking with each other and not asking whether they can work-in? If thats the case, fire up conversations at will (well cover what to say shortly). But if the atmosphere is more businesslike, its probably best to keep minding your own. Unsolicited banter, no matter how witty, can stick out worse than a left elbow during assisted tricep dips.
Next, and most importantly: you can check someone out, just dont freak them out. Its one thing to sneak a peek while shes sprawled on the stretching mat, but quite another to train your penetrating gaze on her (no matter how amazing her side crunch technique might be). Among the women Ive spoken to, the consensus is clear. One or two quick glances, and maybe even a little smile, are flattering; prolonged staring, drooling, or high-fiving your equally lecherous friends, is not. Of course, even the strongest exhibit occasional weakness – if you absolutely cant help it, use the gyms mirrors for a far less detectable stare. (This technique can also give you a better view of, shall we say, the traditionally hidden parts of an alluring physique.)
Youve spotted someone on the lat machine, youve used the mirror, and you like what you see. Youre ready to make your move, right? Hold on there, tough guy. The next step is recognizing her receptiveness. Just as exercise is a social experience, it can also be solitary and serious. Some people just want to get in and get out as quickly as possible. This is especially true at gyms where members squeeze workouts into hectic appointment schedules, or even before the workday begins. People probably arent looking for romance in the midst of the daily grind, and while your hormones might be awake at 6:00 a.m., its unlikely that someone who gets up while its still dark wants to meet anyone, aside from the coffee stand guy.
Same can be said of those who hit the gym after work – chances are they just want to exercise, go home, and eat a salad. If some meathead wearing zebra-print Zubaz pants impedes that progress, do you think hell get that number (the real one)? She might have caught your eye, but you cant assume the feeling is mutual unless she sees you and smiles back. Even then, wait an extra minute, just to make sure shes not there with her championship kick-boxer boyfriend, whod be more than happy to use your face as a leather focus mitt.
When it comes to opening lines, we all have our stand-bys. But at the gym, inspired pick-ups like Sagittarius, right?, Im on the football team, and please dont call the cops might not work as well. True, womens reactions vary, depending largely on delivery, making it tough to say what to say. But there are definitely techniques to avoid. Worst offender? The old let me show you how to do that maneuver. Weve all seen this move in action, and might even be guilty of trying it (listen up, personal trainers). Theres nothing wrong with correcting someones form – unless its used as a pretext to ogle her body at close range, or, worse, place an instructive hand on it.
Most men dont mind a strangers touch (and probably fantasize about it), but women like it about as much as filthy bathrooms, back hair, and spitting contests. Heres something else they hate: guys who comment on how stretchy they are. Yes, women are flexible, and flexibility is awesome – just ask Emoke Ritter, world-famous Hungarian contortionist (youve never heard of her?). Women understand they can bend in ways that stir the male imagination – spare yourself the embarrassment of mentioning it.
The last thing a woman wants to hear from a stranger, unless youre Leonardo DiCaprio, is boy are you flexible. Same goes for great muscle tone, killer pecs, or nice ass. Keep the focus off her body, at least out loud. Instead, comment on the book shes reading or the music shes listening to. Or simply ask what her name is. Talk a little. Work out a little. Established a rapport first, then you can show her the right way to do a shoulder press. Better yet, let her show you.
Top 5 Least Effective Gym PIck-Up Lines
1) Is that a Detour bar in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?
2) Nice Glutes.
3) Id love to ask you out for a drink, but Im on Atkins.
4) You know, my favorite exercise is pushups. Theyre best done with 2 people, care to join in?
5) Hi, my name is Richard Simmons.